tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017408858396269259.post5195791322862480312..comments2019-11-26T00:13:14.800-08:00Comments on OnlyConnect: The CrabUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017408858396269259.post-13833140553789066772009-10-28T21:09:35.988-07:002009-10-28T21:09:35.988-07:00That's a wonderful response.
Thank you!That's a wonderful response.<br /><br />Thank you!excavatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12977971829976807873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017408858396269259.post-7398863552436137012009-10-28T11:03:26.748-07:002009-10-28T11:03:26.748-07:00Ah -- parenting is sometimes a dance of onlyconnec...Ah -- parenting is sometimes a dance of onlyconnect and then only disconnect. A sensitive parents needs to be able to do both, but when? That is the hard question. When to intrude, which I have done and said,"no, we need to see someone about this. you are suffering too much." Or, when to say, "it's your life, I am here to talk but you need privacy and you need to experience some pain to work out for yourself how to deal with it." In retrospect, its much easier to see when I made good decisions, when I did not. Sometimes I knew at the time, those were the good times.<br /><br />I like the fact that you could use the crab metaphor in such a helpful way. I think there is something about a crabs utter difference and secret habits that lends itself to many situations. In this case -- to extend it more -- your son is like a crab that grows a new shell in secret and then comes out a whole new self, while you have been worrying about the shabby secret self of the old shell.OnlyConnecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13793714288722589040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017408858396269259.post-76578370244372512562009-10-28T09:17:59.740-07:002009-10-28T09:17:59.740-07:00My little boy is a crab. I suppose there is a lite...My little boy is a crab. I suppose there is a literal-ish as well as metaphorical basis to this assertion,since astrologically he's born under the sign of cancer.<br /><br />But from the beginning the signs anxious parents look for to see if their child's development is on track were slow in coming. Generally the first 'sign' of development wasn't the gradual step-by-step build-up, but the full flower. In the meantime I'd bitten my nails to the quick.<br /><br />His connections are made in the shadows, under the surface where I can't see them being made, until they emerge.<br /><br />Yesterday I was looking through the NPR website to catch up on some programs I'd missed. I was tempted by a link about capitalism and so followed it to a movie review. Not of Michael Moore's film, but a couple of television features. In the course of introducing these two films the reviewer cited EM Forster's "command", "Only Connect".<br /><br /><i>What????</i><br /><br />My <i>friend</i> has a blog called "OnlyConnect"(this is what's going through my mind). Something to do with her Unitarian Universalist church--this is based on a quotation by EM Forster?<br /><br />I went to a Wikiquote site and found, from "Howard's End":<br /><br /> <i> * She might yet be able to help him to the building of the rainbow bridge that should connect the prose in us with the passion. Without it we are meaningless fragments, half monks, half beasts, unconnected arches that have never joined into a man. With it love is born, and alights on the highest curve, glowing against the grey, sober against the fire. Happy the man who sees from either aspect the glory of these outspread wings. The roads of his soul lie clear, and he and his friends shall find easy-going.</i><br /> o Ch. 22<br /><br /><i>Connect — connect without bitterness until all men are brothers.<br /><br /> * Only connect! That was the whole of her sermon. Only connect the prose and the passion, and both will be exalted, and human love will be seen at its height. Live in fragments no longer. Only connect, and the beast and the monk, robbed of the isolation that is life to either, will die.</i><br /><br />And so I came over here to visit you and found your post on "The Crab". And instantly I <i>connected</i> this with my son, whose education and prognosis I've been preoccupied. And I realize, my obligation to him is to respect his crab nature, and protect the environment in which a crab can thrive.excavatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12977971829976807873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017408858396269259.post-6260635097739173952009-10-04T18:17:39.051-07:002009-10-04T18:17:39.051-07:00What have you seen that's hidden?What have you seen that's hidden?excavatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12977971829976807873noreply@blogger.com